Anyone on any sideline can influence a child’s soccer experience positively, by following these simple ideas:
*THE FUN LIES IN BEING ABLE TO PLAY. Encourage player development and giving a 100% performance over winning. Ask, “Did you have fun?” rather than “Did you win?” Winning is not a strong motivation if children are not having fun. Emphasize success.
*KNOW THE GAME AND THE LAWS. Soccer looks simple but it is complex to play, coach and officiate. It is free flowing and ever changing and demands constant problem-solving. It is also physically demanding.
*SUPPORT THE ENTIRE TEAM, NOT JUST YOUR CHILD. Please DO NOT give instructions, “coach”, or get over-involved; applaud good plays by either side. Enjoy the game!
*PRACTICE GOOD SPORTSMANSHIP. Youngsters learn by example. Win gracefully, not boastfully. Lose without being negative.
*LET THE PLAYERS PLAY. Soccer is a player’s game; they are being trained to make decisions on the field. Things happen quickly; players do not have time to react to sideline instructions. They do hear encouragement, however, so be positive.
*LET THE COACHES COACH. Coaches are volunteers who provide guidance and supervised fun. They devote their time and energy and experience to help your child learn skills and the joys of teamwork. Respect them and their decisions. Remember, their primary concern is the development of the entire team.
*LET THE REFEREES REFEREE. They help teach children about sportsmanship, fair play and the spirit of soccer. Their calls are final. Disputing or disagreeing with a decision never changes it; it just disrupts the players and the game. Referees may make calls that we do not agree with, but it is still up to the teams to decide the game.
*GET INVOLVED. Get involved in activities in addition to soccer that your child likes. Help your child’s skills and sportsmanship improve. Take him or her to a soccer game, or watch one on TV. Kick the ball around, learn how to play the game.
*BE SUPPORTIVE. Volunteer to help with practices, transportation or administrative tasks. Make sure your child is prompt—this teaches responsibility.
*ALLOW YOUR CHILD TO BE A CHILD. Young players see soccer as fun. They enjoy learning skills, being on a team and running around. They are building character and self-esteem. You’ll see wonderful progress–and help your child to grow–if fun and technique development are your top priorities.
